This is a big one, because without self esteem we really don't get anything done. From my perspective and the yogi perspective, it's really about doing what you love to do, because if you're doing what you love to do, you're really excited. You can't wait to get up in the morning, you get up earlier, you're really ready and you show up. Whereas if you're doing something that you're not supposed to be doing, you kind of feel like, "I'm not sure about this," and the doubt comes in.
That's so true. Why am I doing this?
And life feels kind of purposeless.
The question to ask yourself, even before you get to the point of self esteem and why you may not have it, is, "Am I doing the thing I'm supposed to be doing?" That means the thing I love to do, the thing that I was born to do, the thing that I'm good at. Ultimately you've got to be good at what you do. From all the conversations we have and the people that we converse with about this, it's more about first steps. Am I doing what I should be doing? Then am I gonna commit to what I'm doing? All of these steps have to be one after the other because what happens is with self esteem, you're trying to build it and you're trying to build it and every day you're kind of like doubting things and wondering if you should be or shouldn't be. Is it this person, is it that job? But you haven't taken the first steps. What is it?
I'm helping a friend right now exactly with that. She's asking me, "What do I do? How do I build self esteem?" I say, "What do you love to do?" She says, "I don't know." I've been in that situation too where I don't know and I felt a little down until the point where I found what I love to do. Then of course you become good at what you do.
It's also about whenever you set an intention, fulfill it. This is how the three powers within, the yogic sciences teach us that we have three powers within us. That is the power of our mind, our higher mind, the one that operates in awareness.
So we have the power of the mind, we have the power of the will, and we have the power of action. These three powers need to work together in order to manifest a goal or a desire. So if any one of those powers is off, it's going to create an imbalance. You're not going to reach the goals and it will then bring you to a state of being not feeling confident. If you want to build your self esteem, set an intention in the mind. In the yogic sciences, we call this a Sankalpa. It's a focused aware intention. Set an intention of your mind.
Second, use that second power, your power of will, to fulfill that and then take the action to manifest it. You have to then take that action. Otherwise, everything just stays in our head with all these things that we want and absolutely we won't feel confident at all.
Start to set small intentions for yourself one at a time and every single time you use those three powers within yourself, you're going to feel more confident and more confident and that is gonna build your self esteem and set you up for success on a bigger level when you come to realize what are the bigger things that you want to do in life, and the bigger goals that you want to achieve?
But it can start right now, even if you don't know what that big thing is yet, it can start right now with, "I'm gonna do a fast." If you've set an intention to do a fast, set that date with how many days it's gonna be, three days, five days, seven days, then use your power of will, stick to it and finish it. Go all the way to the goal and use that power of action. Whatever it is. If you're going to write a book, get the pages out, set an intention of how you're gonna do it, use your willpower every day and finish that last page of that book. That's gonna build your confidence. Whatever it is, big or small, be it a physical goal, a mental goal, an emotional goal, set it as your willpower, then take the action.
Complete it, like what Yogini is saying, always complete it, because self esteem has a lot to do with when you leave things undone, you've kind of done them halfway, you don't feel good, then you feel weak, then you haven't completed. It kind of goes backwards and forwards because you haven't completed the thing you need to do. Always complete it. Even if you don't get the result you want out of it, you still feel good about everything because you've completed it.
Absolutely. Even if you don't ... even if you aren't aware of it, if you've set an intention and said, "I'm going to do this," and then you got busy and distracted and started to do other things, the subconscious mind is still holding on to that intention and the subconscious mind, even though you're not conscious of it, knows, "Oh, you didn't fulfill this. You said you were gonna do something and you didn't fulfill it," and that actually starts to pull you into-
It makes you weak.
Everything that you don't complete when you started and you set out an intention, that's why the power of our words are really powerful. We keep believing them and saying, "Yeah, yeah. Sure I'm gonna do that," and then you don't, that makes you feel weak and that's when your self esteem suffers. You've got a lot of knowledge right there to go by, so whatever you say, complete it and do it and let us know about how you're doing because we always love your feedback.
Namaste. Lots of love